From Boyz to Men...Raising Our Boys to Be Men

Sunday, June 7, 2015


I’m guessing it was long past overdue in keeping up with the Kardashians.  Maybe E! wrote it in the story long before any of us met Caitlyn, to not-so-subtly encourage the same sex theme Hollywood & government & universities everywhere & even Mr. President are hitting our nation hard with.  Perhaps Bruce yearned for that spotlight. Maybe he was tired of being the only K without fake boobs. It did seem over the years that surgical procedures were indeed catching. Maybe after decades of every single Kardashian female’s nip and tuck to look shockingly sexy and shockingly steamy and shockingly ageless and uhmmm...well shockingly Kardashian, not to mention the desmasculinization by the entire she-power--money--media--moguls--pop--culture--fashionista goddesses. Quite honestly, I’m sure none of us can even imagine another so influential household name in today’s world.  The only thing bigger than Kim could be Bruce Jenner becoming a woman. The set up couldn’t have been more elaborate.

They’ve shocked us every single step of the way.  Why would Bruce’s exploration to transgender truth and identity fulfillment and history-making reality show seem any different?  It would be a fascinating story.  It would indulge same-sex pride and dominance and unity in unprecedented measure.  And the emergent Caitlyn would be exactly what a nation struggling to grasp truth or identity would be enamored with. Actually a story that would wow the world and dominate our social media and isn’t that exactly what everyone wanted? 

But the truth is, it isn’t truth.  If you don’t believe me, catch just one episode of mainstream television and see firsthand as men are berated and idiotized and laughed at instead of honored and followed.  It is the abandonment of God. Man was created in the image of God.  Woman actually came from man...from man’s own body a rib was taken and then became wo”man.”  We relate to God as the ultimate man-figure, our superior daddy to the world. He was supposed to be the ultimate hero.  But instead a man who became a woman is our honored and brave “hero.” If men can now become women after hormone replacement and the scalpel and their own struggles, why choose a God who made us and shaped us and formed us in the womb?  Gender modification has opened the door to us not only changing what we think we lack but actually who we were created to be. 

Women, I’m all about being the she-roes we were meant to be, but this is an assault.  It is an full-frontal attack on our men...our husbands...and our fathers...and our little boys.  And so many times we win.  And wasn’t that the real message of feminism anyways? We cut them down and we tell them they are lacking and we criticize and we think we are right and better and smarter and more responsible.  We live the message that men are indeed idiots.  We forget to be thankful or to love them with our words and actions.  And we baby our little boys...never forcing them to grow up or to take responsibility or lead. What would our men look like if we actually began to tell them they are machismo and irresistible and manly and knights coming to our rescue and adored?  Maybe they would believe in themselves again. Maybe they would rise up and be men, instead of secretly wishing to be women. 

This is identity crisis.  If we accept the lie, then all men become women, we forget God, and the human race is faced without relationship or pro-creation. More than any other time in history, countless men are being incarcerated, jobless, without purpose, lacking initiative, unable to experience intimacy, filled up with porn and addiction. Men are portrayed as partying, irresponsible, purposeless, panty-wearing pansies. Instinctively, males are purpose-driven and without purpose and affirmation and reason and freedom, they are bound by their habits and become noncommittal thugs.  Women if you’re wondering where all the good men went, maybe they got tired of the cutting down, spitting on, disadored, and criticized.  

My 7 year old little man is art and music and Legos and matchbox cars.  He has a keen eye for fashion and can spend legit time in front of the mirror getting his blonde cut just right, but it is up to me and his daddy to teach him to fight and lead and achieve and conquer and live in manly, God-filled purpose. Children were made to explore.  But if their journey leads them to the top of the Empire State Building, it doesn’t mean we allow them to jump. Our children become who we tell them and shape them to be. It is up to me to raise him from a boy and give him every opportunity to emerge a man. 

The things we give ourselves to, will shape us.  The mind can go as far as we push it.  We were made to be fantastically fulfilled with freedom and light and life. I choose truth. I choose my men to be supermen...strong...decisive...fearless...heroes. 

Bruce...Caitlyn...you are loved and you are beautiful. There is purpose and true identity. It is found when we stop thinking about who we want to be and remember who Christ created us to be.  

Photobucket“Then you will know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.”  John 8:32